being an *almost* sophomore in college, I’ve come into contact with a lot of girls who want to be in/are actively seeking a relationship. I mean I can’t blame them, I fall into this group sometimes too. being in a relationship brings a certain validation and love that people inherently want and desire, but it can be frustrating when a potential or even current relationship doesn’t work out. so today I wanted to talk about how to be okay with being single and focus on the one relationship that really matters.

as we get older, we tend to crave relationships more because we see others around us who have found their significant other. this can be difficult, because it kind of makes us stop and think, why don’t I have that? When am I going to find someone to love me like that? well, I can tell you that relationships are not always a walk in the park. they take constant attention and nurturing, and if they don’t receive that, they tend to fizzle out. the important thing to remember is that it’s okay when that happens. all it means is that it wasn’t meant to be; it wasn’t God’s will. I like to think of those times when the relationship didn’t work out as learning experiences. God is preparing me for when He brings me the man of my dreams, and when He does, it’s going to be better than anything I could have imagined. I talked about this in a previous post, but God’s timing is always perfect. He will bring the perfect person for you into your life when the time is right. believe it! There are times in your life when being in a relationship might not be the best decision for you, and God knows that. He knows what you need in your life at any given moment, so we have to have faith that He will bring us the relationship we desire when it’s the right time. don’t be discouraged if you are single, because the truth is, God is going to show you something else that will benefit you right now!

although, before you can even think about being in a relationship, you have to remember who your first love is: Jesus. His love is always pure, never selfish or unkind. other earthly loves can cause pain and brokenness, but His love never will. use Jesus’ love as an example of the kind of love that you deserve. don’t settle for anything less. but, until the time comes that you have that special someone, you have to learn to be okay with being single. the way I see it, being single is an opportunity to strengthen yourself and your relationship with God. this time that you have to yourself is a blessing, you have the chance to become a better version of yourself and make sure that you are happy with who you are. yes, being in a relationship that makes you happy is a special thing, but so is your singleness! if you don’t open your mind to see this time of being alone as a time of endless opportunity, you’ll never be fully satisfied. use this time to focus on yourself and, most importantly, focus on your relationship with Jesus! He is always there for you when you have a significant other and when you don’t. always remember that a man does not define you; you already know who you are in Jesus. that’s what’s most important!

I know a lot of this is easier said than done, but like always, Jesus is there to help you. pray about it, ask for guidance, and try not to worry about when the right guy will come along. have faith that he will enter your life at the perfect time! it’s gonna be great, promise!

 

much love, emily

 

SOTP: Pieces by Amanda Cooke! Perfect reminder of His love for you. Great for when you might be feeling lonely, and when you’re not. Highly recommend.  *special thanks to Aubree for showing me this song, really helped me write this piece!